Interpersonal conflict communication skills is a key factor that lead to a disagreement between each other. One situation happens in a shopping mall where it involves my friend and I. The communication breakdown was trying to persuade her to stop stealing things in the shopping mall as it will be a serious offense and probably led her to jail. One day, I went shopping with her, I realized she was stealing things in a department store, I told her to put it back or else we will get in deep trouble. She felt frustrated that I kept nagging at her for telling her to put back the stuff and then she shouted “shut up” at me in an angry and rude manner. After the quarrel, she was being extremely cold to me while we will walking to the bus stop. At the bus stop, she told me “let don’t be friends anymore since you do not like to take the risk with me. “ I was stunned that she told this to me and then she left off.
After reading the conflict I had, what is the best solution to resolve this situation.
revised on 23 Feb 2018
Comment on : Glen, Colin and Jean
After reading the conflict I had, what is the best solution to resolve this situation.
revised on 23 Feb 2018
Comment on : Glen, Colin and Jean
Hey Serena!
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing the conflict that you had.
I understand that at times of conflict, choosing between your friends and what is right to do is difficult at times and I am glad that you have choose the right thing to do.
Understanding that your friend may have Kleptomaina, she may have the obsessive urge to steal and get the thrill of not getting caught. If I were in your shoes, I would also have a difficult decision to either choose to ignore or to work on the situation. In this case, it may be best to talk to her to find out her true decision to steal and to find out if there are any hobbies that she can focus on to keep her urge in check. This may reduce her overall urge to steal.
If all else fails, I do feel that getting tips from a psychiatrist would help. Your friend may not be willing to receive help from the psychiatrist so it would be good to talk her into receiving help as the urge to steal would get her into deeper trouble!
I hope that my advice will help you if you face another situation again!
Best wishes,
Glen
Thanks everyone for commenting on my post for interpersonal conflict
ReplyDeleteThe solution to the conflict was
we will no longer friends , I have block her from all her social media platform and delete all the photos we take together. Since, I feel that she does not deserve to be my friend since she do not know what is the consequences would be. I would be stupid if i continue to be friends with her.
Thank you, Serena, for making a final comment in light of Glen's feedback. It's clear that you maintaining a 'normal' relationship with the person you have described would be difficult. I still wonder, however, which of the Thomas-Kilmann modes this approach would reflect. That was the purpose of this task: for you to evaluate it in terms of a more informed conflict resolution pathway.
ReplyDeleteWhat do you think?
the Thomas- Kilmann mode that i am approaching is avoiding as I wanted not to deal the conflict with it again
DeleteOk, good. Avoidance is definitely appropriate at times.
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